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I've been married for five years, and gradually, my wife stopped performing oral sex on me. I feel like this was a bait and switch because she used to love doing this. I've asked her to do it, and she says she's not in the mood, or some other excuse. What should I do? Well your question was brief so I think you're a practical, no-nonsense kind of dude. I will be to the point as well. So that's when you get all the oral sex.
As the relationship continues, their sex drive tanks. I'm coining the word monotogamy for this boredom in monogamous relationships. For tips on how to get her sex drive back up and why she should go down on you even though she wouldn't pick it over a trip to the dentist, see my article here.
Say that you miss oral sex and you're sad and angry that she won't do it. Go as deep as you can into the underlying feelings here. Do you miss her wanting to make you happy, with oral sex and in general? If you can state this, she may understand your perspective better. Think deeply about your own contribution to this issue. She may feel that you are dismissive of her feelings, and continue to pressure her without caring that she no longer enjoys this activity.
Do you badger her, nag her, make snide remarks? This will all make her feel distant and that she is only a source of sexual gratification to you, like a Real Doll. Maybe you're one of those head-pushers. If you don't know how to get her to realize you want oral sex without head pushing, here are two key points: She is not stupid and she knows, even if you're in a coma and your dog just died, you want oral sex, and 2.
If she likes head pushing though, keep on keeping on. If you have been engaging in these sorts of behaviors, and realize how you've been making things worse, a heartfelt apology may make her more willing to examine her own part in the problem. Is she happy within the marriage otherwise? Are you connecting with her, talking on a deep level, taking her out on dates?
Ask her openly if she feels happy with you. If she feels bitter, resentful, lonely, or any other negative emotion more often than not within the marriage, she is going to feel completely put off by the idea of sex with you, of any variety, especially something she may not like as much as regular sex.
If this is the case, seek couples counseling, stat. She doesn't not love you. She doesn't love oral sex within monogamy. If she were married to anyone else, including Brad Pitt, she still wouldn't be giving him head after a few years. Relatedly, you must realize that the lack of sex drive I am talking about is no joke.
Going down on you, as handsome a devil as you may be, is probably in the best case scenario, a boring neutral activity for her, e. So, if she's going to do this, then it's ONLY because she loves you.
So, be nice about it. What if someone told you to eat a live grasshopper to save your marriage? Or a pile of dirt, or whatever you find repugnant, and the argument for you doing so was that, when brainwashed in an earlier phase of life by a Bug Eating Cult, you did it happily? Bug Eating Cult here is analogous to being crazed with new relationship hormones.
You can read more about low libido in couples in the book Wanting Sex Again: You should empathize and validate your wife's perspective, by saying things like, "I know you really don't want to do this anymore.
So I know I'm asking you to go outside your comfort zone. Ask, "So, on a scale from 1 of eating a grasshopper, to 10 of you can't live without it, how do you feel about going down on me?
Don't get sucked in to the unhelpful mind set of she has to WANT to give you oral sex. You cannot make anyone want anything. Try to problem solve together.
Tell her you know she doesn't like it, but it's still very important to you that she tries it, and that Dr. Psych Mom says she should try it after she is already excited, not before.
She is going to tell you, F Dr. The worst thing you can do here is try to put your penis in her face when she is not excited at all. Thus, oral sex shouldn't be foreplay anymore. Try oral sex halfway through sex, when she is excited. In general, when women are not feeling much sexual desire, a good thing to try is stopping and starting sexual activity, exactly as is recommended to address premature ejaculation in men.
Women often best respond to gradually building sexual stimulation, that starts and stops in a more teasing way see Fifty Shades of Grey: Book One of the Fifty Shades Trilogy and a lot of erotica for women. If she is more excited, her inhibitions will loosen, and she may find it easier and even pleasurable to go down on you analogy: Expecting oral sex three times a week is setting yourself and your marriage, and your wife, up to fail. How about times a month? That would be lovely. So, you're asking, A.
Well, sorry about the first. I got aHEAD of myself. If your wife still says no to oral sex, and no to couples counseling to address deeper issues as well, then it's your call here. If you do not want to be in the relationship without either oral sex or more sex or better sex or whatever, be direct.
Do not be passive aggressive, stay in the relationship and be bitter and resentful, or, worst, be unfaithful. It makes sense to me that if this is important to you, and you used to get it from her, then you would currently still want it from her. If you are trying your best to be a supportive and loving partner to her, and communicate lovingly and directly, and offer to go to counseling, and she still cannot try and suck it up, no pun intended well I guess it was half intended and give you oral sex every so often, with a semblance of enthusiasm, I would say she is not terribly committed to your happiness.
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Reader No Oral writes: When women are in a new relationship their sex drive dramatically increases, hormonally. Thus they no longer want to do the stuff they used to want to do, like oral sex. Here are some other tips, this time to help you communicate more effectively: Go to mobile site.
I started out in a small Vermont town. Everyone knew you… and your business. There were not many places to hide. I felt secure in knowing others were watching out for me. I can remember years ago living in Phoenix sobbing as I read a Vermont Life magazine article. In that moment I longed for community and close friends. Not having close friends since high school, I created a plan to develop them. We are helping other men start groups and develop deep friendships. The core of what we learned was the ROC formula: Relax, Open and Connect.
They are the first three strategies to generating close friends. There were not many places to hide, and I felt secure in knowing others were watching out for me. We live in a world that continues to run faster with more to do.
Your nervous system starts to habituate to that pace along with all those around you. Once you begin to accept and experience your pace you can start to relax. In relaxing, you may feel anxious. This is a lifelong process.
You need to start to see results. Mindfulness is a great tool to speed the development of this skill. By slowing down, you are more able to do the next skill. Once you begin to accept your body, mind and emotional experiences you have more room to open up to being vulnerable to others.
With vulnerability you are real, you are human. Sure, some will not like you. Once you relax and open, you are ready to reach out to connect to another. If vulnerability is the key, connecting is the door. When you step through your fears to reach out to another while being present and vulnerable, you upped your game.
Shifting from being passive to active by moving forward to connect has you give up some control. Sure you can connect from your hyper-persona, but you know what that will get you. If you want more friends sooner, apply these three steps tomorrow. This is critical to the ROC formula and friendships. To the extent you feel unsafe your physiology will shift into its survival state. If you feel unsafe, there is a good chance the other person feels unsafe. You can push your way through by denying your physical and emotional feelings.
Or you could slow down to allow yourself to feel the lack of safety AS your risk to move forward towards connecting. A safe space is the fertile soil for friendship. When you slow down to connect to the kinds of friends you want you are more likely to create them. Rather than hoping, you get clear so you can create a plan. If you want friends that enjoy nature, hanging in bars may not be the place to meet them.
Joining a hiking club would set you up to meet nature lovers. With clarity comes taking a stand for what you want. Sure, a good friend is there for another when he or she is not receiving from the other. You know what I mean. When you see his caller ID, you hesitate to pick up. If you fill your life with relationships that suck you dry you will have no room for those that can nourish you. Start saying what you truly feel and want.
Sometimes the truth will set one of these people free. Others speak of having good boundaries. I say fill your boundaries with all of your feelings and wants. Be courageously authentic and the need to work on strong boundaries will be irrelevant. Those that you would want will be attracted to you. We are attracted to people who have a purpose in life. We read books and see movies about people who stand up for something that puts them at risk.
Go for more than finding your passion. Explore what you want to live and die for. The more you enjoy your own company, the more others will. The more you enjoy being by yourself the less you have misplaced needs. We instinctually and biologically, let alone psychologically, need others.
I am speaking about being OK with your own company. We are social animals; we are hungry for connection. We want to be heard and witnessed, not analyzed and lectured to. The next time you find yourself not being heard or see yourself go into problem-solving mode, slow down. Use the ROC formula to reorient. Back away from seeing the person as a problem. Listen less for understanding and more for connection. Encourage the person to express vulnerable feelings with your actions and words.
If it feels right, you may touch the person. Research proved that touch is a powerful connector that can immediately tell someone they are OK. When a situation has intensity and possibly perceived danger we will move beyond our hesitations to reach out for help. Studies were down during the bombing of London in the Second World War. Rather than people fighting each other for the limited resources they bonded together to share.
Going on a strenuous hike with another can cement a friendship. Maybe you got lost. Once you rediscover the trail, you start laughing at all the mistakes you both made. Those mistakes become your shorthand to remind each other about the experience and how good it felt.
We need predictability in our lives. In lieu of no positive rituals, our unconscious will use negative rituals. A couple may have a date night every week. Through the week each person, rather than daydream about the last argument, can reflect on their weekly date that will be relaxing and connecting. Plan activities with friends that bring you closer. Most would not have thought hanging with other men would be fun.
They know if something tough happens, they have their group. Your ability to listen allows another to go deep into their experience.
But how many people do you have that can sit with you for an hour and listen? When you look at listening as a mental task, it looks boring. When you look at listening as emotional intimacy, it can be scary or exciting. As the person speaks, feel your response. Notice how your body responds.
Notice how you are opening up. Although this is expressing a real feeling, it can mean many things. It usually takes the client or couple several sessions for them to discover where it falls on the continuum. Is it a part of the normal cycles of love, or is it signaling the end of the relationship?
My concern is that we interpret this feeling, which is also about the absence of another kind of feeling, as a sign the relationship is not going to last. Think about what you do for a living. Are you a professional, a student, an artist of some sort? Can you remember when you had the thought that brought you to this place? Three months later, when you're knee-deep in desk work, administration complications, or having to manage an impossible co-worker, what do you feel then?
Does it mean you put in your resignation immediately? Probably not—and it's no different in our relationships. Some days are cloudy, some are stormy, some are gray, and sometimes the sun shines. Here are some of the many other things it can mean:. Ending a relationship won't ever be nice or easy. All couples have many irresolvable issues, and the difference between the thrivers and divers is not whether they have differences between them but how they are managed.
This happens because we learn the skills to handle it, and the good news is that anyone can learn skills. Our sexual relationships are like the other parts of our connection—we need to find new ways to keep things alive. In the same way a runner can feel wiped out and then push through the wall to find a second wind and a better high than ever, this often happens in our lovemaking when we get a little creative.
So, what do you do about it? A long-term relationship has many seasons: Want more insight into your relationships?
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